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Self Love as the absence of Judgement

Simon Paul Sutton
3 min readDec 28, 2021


SELF LOVE NOW excerpt from author Michael Dale

I battled with a lack of Self Love from an early age. As a teenager, I turned to drugs to help me cope with it. This only made things worse, and after a massive binge at 17, my dissatisfaction with myself was so intense I slipped into self-loathing and attempted suicide.

Nearly twenty years later I can honestly say that learning to love me has been my biggest challenge. I used to do so much ‘work’ on loving myself and could still never quite get it ‘right’. I just never felt like I was ‘enough’, or that life was either.

By a miracle, all that changed five years ago when I came across The Dalai Lama’s interpretation of what love is. He defines love simply as “the absence of judgment,” and that’s had a profoundly healing impact on me. It means when I stop judging others and myself, Love starts!

I’ve found this so freeing. Freeing because it’s helped me to stop judging my truth and live more in alignment with what excites me most — my bliss.

I believe this is the most important thing anyone can do to be the change they wish to see in the world at this crucial time for humanity, and the most important thing we can teach kids. This, for me is the main reason that loving ourselves is so essential. It’s not an easy road.

I’ve experienced the path of bliss as a purifying flame that challenges all my most limiting beliefs, demands many brave decisions and burns everything that’s not joy right out of my being.

I stumble often, but I have never felt more alive, more viscerally connected to the awe-inspiring reality of living in a universe of infinite possibilities.

by Michael Dale

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During a ‘sharing circle’ Simon invited a spontaneous question; “Why is Self Love so important today?”. He was profoundly moved by the answers of those in the circle, so much so that over time that movement continued to birth an idea of a book of 54 diversely selected co-creators expressing their individual answers to the same broad and important universal question. Now you have the wisdom of these divine beings all in one place. Notice anyone you know? — Enjoy xxx

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